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I have not forgotten

November 25, 2010 Leave a comment

A quick note!

I have not forgotten my blog. It is just that these take a L O N G time to do. Reading up, digesting and writing up just takes time.


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The Best of all possible worlds

August 13, 2010 Leave a comment

I met Indydreaming/Jayne Kearney at a Lunatics Society of Newcastle event in June 2010. Jayne is a Newcastle NSW writer, blogger, tweep was one of the panellists on the topic of social media for business.

Jayne started blogging for WebChild one of the first online parenting websites I visited. Jayne is now the editor of Sunny Days a parenting newspaper in Newcastle with a circulation of about 20.000. She has also done a stint on The Punch.

In November 2009 Jayne started her own blog Indydreaming and includes two main passions; her family and her writing. Jayne is a fantastic and observant storyteller.

On the one hand she writes that it is sad that kids have to grow up and that we have to say goodbye but accepts there is a paradox “…it’s also incredibly joyous to watch kids blossom. I feel blessed to have the opportunity to fall in love with the continuous emergence of the people I know as my children.”

“Motherhood – The Greatest Gift of All”

Jayne blogs about writing a novel. She acknowledges she has the seed to write but knows she needs the time to write. She has the first sentence and knows how it ends. Possibly, there is a more of the story still to happen.

Language is very important to Jayne…”(btw: grammar, punctuation and spelling are incredibly important to me. Exclamation points should be used with caution. None of this applies to Twitter)” Eeek, I hope my critique is up to sCRatSH!! 😉
Now to her use and love of Twitter “… while I was on my holidays and going through a little withdrawal (Twitter) I came up with an analogy:
  • Social Media and Alcohol
  • Stumble is beer. It makes you feel like crap.
  • Facebook is white wine (occasionally it’s French champagne – but not very often)
  • Blogging is red wine – quality dependent on the vintage. The vintages I like can be seen to the right.
  • And Twitter – for me at least – is like your favourite cocktail mixed to your own personal specifications. That would make mine a French Martini.”

More on her love of Twitterverse, Tweeps and writing can be heard on 1233 ABC Newcastle radio with Carol Duncan. Below is a snapshot of that interview.

  • Twitter is a way to reach out to a network without leaving the home/office.
  • Jayne decided at 4 years she wanted to write.
  • She went into communications at uni and specialised in print publishing.
  • Unfortunately she lost her daughter Sienna 4 years ago. And has written about it and her miscarriages to help get over the pain. Also to share, speak and be heard.
  • Being a parent she says had helped her get her ideas to write her blog. “Parenting has helped me find my voice”. Her blog posts has received not so pretty comments which hurts “But it gets you back up on your horse with a sword”.

Life has its up and downs and so do house renovations. But “Don’t mention the ‘decorating feature’.” “And secondly (and most importantly), plumbers are, quite simply, gods.” Her family lived without a kitchen, bathroom, laundry and running water at times.

She has written a lot of the changes in her family and writes a very personal piece about her mum. “I was 20 when my mother became permanently disabled. One December Saturday the line between parent and child became blurred. It’s a challenge many of us will face – how do I parent my parents?”

She is very candid and a bit tough on herself at times, I think. “I can’t play with my kids. Not something you want to admit at mother’s group, but there it is.” The replies to her blog show that she is not alone. We can’t be good at everything.

There are bloggers and authors like Kylie Ladd who Jayne says have inspired her. “A couple of years ago I started following Kylie’s weekly blog on Web Child. It was around the time that I was making moves towards writing seriously myself. ”
Not only are other bloggers inspiration to her, but so are her children. They too are her teachers.
Pondering over her makeup prior to having a family photograph taken, Indy, Jayne’s daughter says “Mummy, you always look beautiful – even without make-up.” At this stage the cockles of my heart were warmed but my inner cynic was still scoffing. However, the defining moment was yet to come. Indy continued, “But,” she said as she snuggled in closer , “Maybe you should wear some make-up for the photos – other people mightn’t see you the way I see you.”

Zoe Taylor’s book Pregnancy Loss: Surviving Miscarriage and Stillbirth spurred four blog postings. I was totally drawn in. It was pure emotional whiplash for me reading as well for Jayne writing. Jayne at one point reflects about her husband Luke “His presence was another reminder that, when it comes to babies – including babyloss – it is always, always about two people.”

Kids always have an innocent take on life and sex. “Luke and I saw fit to use a story about how the daddy has a seed which he puts inside the mummy where it grows into a baby – just like a tree.”… “Both kids accepted this version of events which was a relief because I had heard a story about a mum who had told her little one a similar story only to be asked, “But how does Daddy get the seed in? Does he have a magic wand?” Well, yes, he’d like to think so!”

“But how did it get there?” four-year-old Indy wanted to know….. “Remember how we told you the story about how the daddy puts a seed in the mummy and it grows into a baby? Well that’s what Daddy did to Mummy.”

“Oh,” she said, her crestfallen face accompanied by a tone of frustration and dismay, “I wanted to watch!”

“Speechless doesn’t even come close.”

In a blog posting sometime later about writing a novel Jayne writes “It’s all fun and games calling yourself ‘a writer’ until someone says, ‘how’s the novel’s going’. Then it just sucks. It’s time I pulled my finger out.”

Jayne started her Masters in Creative Writing and then put herself in Twitter rehab to get the writing rolling. One of the first pieces she share on her blog is a piece about her childhood “…if I want to be a fair dinkum writer, I think I have to try to find some of that emotional truth. To occasionally reveal the wound, raw and weeping, before I put it away again.” Again, well written but a very sad story.

June was a quiet blogging month and in July there was some sole searching. Jayne decided to put aside her half planned manuscript (for now), back away from the Twitter tribe “…to take leave of absence from Uni; as I say goodbye…”

“My grief isn’t done yet. But one day it will be. And then, maybe then, it will be my time once again. Time to work. Time to write…”

Wanting more time to spend with her family she blogs “As my lovely children watched me struggle they have displayed humility, courage, bravery, compassion, empathy, a sense of justice and, most of all, love.”

“They are twenty nine thousand shades of awesome. And I’m proud to say I made them.
As they reflect back at me the things I tried to instill in them during their early years I think that maybe I’m not a complete #fail.”

“But, in the struggle to have it all, sometimes something’s gotta give in the best of all possible worlds.”

I like others, admire your bravery, raw honesty and your personal quest for self truth. Take your time to regain and regroup. Jayne I thank you for sharing your stories of life thus far, look forward to the next chapters…in the best of possible worlds.

Of interest
Blog as at 13th August 2010

Ah the possibilities

May 9, 2010 Leave a comment

It seems fitting that I start this blog on Mothers Day. Mummy blogs in AU.

Sarah Pietrzak is a freelance writer, reviewer, guest blogger, an English teacher of 10 years, mother of three and self professed foodaholic who started blogging in 2008. Sarah lives in Perth Western Australia. She comes from a family of bloggers including her dad, who is recovering from open heart surgery last year.

When asked why does she blog, Sarah writes “I think it evolved over time. It was a way of sharing what I wanted and needed to share with others. It was a way of connecting. It was a way for me to articulate (usually to myself) something I was working through or a goal I needed to set….And I don’t for one minute think that reading a blog gives me a complete and total representation of who a person actually is.”
Sarah is an avid and speed reader and refers to herself being a voracious reader. “I figure I’ll pick up some useful bits of knowledge that will hopefully make me appear somewhat wiser than I am. I also like to listen to others in conversation.” I am amazed at how many books she can digest in a short time.

Being a Christian is very important to her and “One of the things my forays into blogworld has taught me is just how diverse peoples beliefs and values are. And I love that. I love being challenged by people who think and believe different things to me. I’m open minded enough to reflect on these ideas and I am open to challenging my own beliefs.” I wish there were others of the same open mindedness.

Sarah became interested in blogs initially to learn about infertility. Friends were being diagnosed with infertility and she felt she didn’t have the ability to help where possible. Researching blogs and stumbling upon a whole new world, blogging.

She writes of friendships lost and won back. Reflections of life and making the most of what life brings. Reflections when friends and family are met with either loss or disasters of one kind or many. “I didn’t necessarily think about people reading it, more about it being a reflective process for me.” Including the loss of her baby brother Rory. Sarah is the co-founder of “Say it with Flowers” and “Whispered Support.”

Sarah is very candid of her life’s ups and downs. “…every rule my husband and I earnestly discussed pre children, that we would have when we had our kids, we have broken.” Always with a comic twist.

True to her teaching she writes beautiful pose. On the topic of teaching, she explains “I love rhyme. I once taught an entire English lesson speaking in rhyme. My class was hysterical by the end of it. I was exhausted. I’ve often thought about applying to Hallmark cards because I think I could write great verses for them.”

Sarah’s story of *Tara* a 11 year old student she taught and describing why she was late one day, was horrific to read but so well written. I was in tears. Amazing why certain memories come back at certain times in your life. Sometimes making the current happenings come into focus a little more. Or could it be some things just take time to process a resolve in our minds?

The strikethrough text used often gives us a little more about her balance of thoughts. “I had thought given the various plagues open heart surgery, gallbladder attacks, a child needing grommets and swine flu affecting my family recently that it was time for a lull.” And more “Garden renovations… And this is why I persevered and it’s also a salutary lesson in the fact that NAGGING works! ”

There are keeping fit postings. Sarah even created her own job blog to help her get fit. She is now a qualified lifesaver and can out swim a shark, when needed. Not contended with that milestone, she is back in training and a broken toe wont stop her. “…they make me feisty (and a little bit brave!)”. What is she in training for? “But not as exciting as the possibility of kicking my husband’s proverbial in the half marathon in August.” I hope you do.

True to her bio, there are lots of food and cooking snippets. Cooking evening courses have inspired so has her discovery of pressure cooking. I am with you on the pressure cooker, now that its getting colder.

I have to also agree with “I love my i-phone. I think their should be government funding for anyone who wants one. Apparently you can get funding for all kinds of strange things. But I think they should be manadatory.”

“My goal of becoming a full time writer doesn’t seem so unreasonable now. ” Ah the possibilities is ahhh good read.

Of interest

Blog as at 19th May 2010

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